“I know you believe you understand what you think I said, but I’m not sure you realize that what you heard, is not what I meant.” — Robert McCloskey
We have all experienced the conundrum of individuals whose conduct, behavior, actions etc., become their albatross and if we allow it . . . ours. They can not or do not observe themselves objectively, while interacting with humanity. Rather than responding to life, they knee jerk react to the process and precipitate in a kind of fall out in connecting behaviors, that keep them in a constant state of instability and flux.
Although it is to some a natural phenomenon in evolution, to others it can become intolerably tedious over time. Sometimes the better part of valor or so the time warn saying goes, is to let go, move ahead and let sleeping dogs lie. Thich Nhat Hanh reflects upon this in another way when he says, “My actions are my true belongings.”
Of course, through our experience of communication misunderstandings will happen . . . that is a given. However, when over a designated period of time, and for each of us this is interchangeable . . . it becomes indelibly clear that there exists no meeting of the minds and perhaps never will . . . consciously. This can be a delicate balance for each of us, and taking the next step in conscious prescience is beyond a choice . . . it is profoundly necessary. No one can make this decision for you, and Stephen R. Covey states it more precisely, “Priority is a function of context.”
Release yourself from the prevailing winds of the inability to recognize your consciousness . . . cognitively. Once you get it going backward doesn’t and will not work, because you have gone beyond the shackles of your own weakness. Certain individuals can be toxic to your well being and existence. The trick is always recognizing it, and then doing something about it. Once that happens, it becomes much easier to avoid those individuals who possess such an over abundance of negative energy that it permeates the air that you breathe.
Over time with experience this process becomes almost second nature, and you learn to avoid individuals, circumstances and unnecessary situations that do not enhance your life’s journey. Ken Keyes, Jr. puts it another way, “As we grow in consciousness, we discover that it is more important to be the right person, than to find the right person.” JLR